Lankhula: speak up and lead

Day 1Name one feeling you had today and what caused it. Day 2Write down the biggest weight on your mind. Day 3Ten minutes alone, no phone, no radio. Think. Day 4Name one thing you have done that you are proud of. Day 5What did your father teach you about being a man? Keep the good, drop the rest. Day 6Keep every promise you make today. Day 7Share one thing from this week in your circle. Day 8Call a friend you haven't spoken to in months. Day 9Ask a man "How are you, really?" and wait for the real answer. Day 10Thank a man who once helped you. Day 11Tell one trusted man about a struggle. Day 12Encourage a younger man. Day 13Ask an older man for advice. Day 14Invite a man to Pa Bawo. Day 15Thank your wife for one specific thing, in front of the children. Day 16Lead a 10-minute family check-in: ask, listen, then say what you will do. Day 17Ask each child about their day, phone away. Day 18Take charge of one thing at home: fix it, organise it, or cook for the family. Day 19Lead a calm money conversation, with figures and a plan. Day 20Own a mistake: name it, fix it, move on. Day 21Lead a family meal and ask everyone one good question. Day 22Speak at a meeting: church, mosque, work or village. Day 23Help a neighbour with something practical. Day 24Visit someone who is sick or grieving. Day 25Settle a small conflict calmly. Day 26Teach another man a skill. Day 27Set the standard when men mock others. Day 28Tell the story of your month in your circle. Day 29Write down three changes you have seen in yourself. Day 30Ask your wife or closest friend: "What change have you seen in me?"