What to say, and what not to say

Words that open men up, and words that shut them down.

Instead of	Try
"Just pray more."	"Let's pray together, and let's also get you some help."
"Be a man."	"It takes a strong man to say this out loud."
"Others have it worse."	"That sounds very heavy for you."
"Suicide is a sin."	"I'm glad you told me. Are you safe right now?"
"Don't tell anyone."	"Let's find the right person to help you."

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